A huge topic floating around right now is feminism. I know, typical, right? But today I am going to clear a few things up. Feminism is NOT about girl power. Okay it is, but not today’s meaning of girl power. Feminists are not against men or things that men do. They are not against women being stay at home moms, and they are not only abrasive women. At least, they are not supposed to be. Feminism is supposed to be a term that frames the idea of equal rights for women. Giving women a chance to be taken seriously in a room full of men, empowering women to stand up against the wage gap between women and men, and imploring them to not feel guilty for wanting a career or for wanting to live a high powered life for that matter. The term is not supposed to emasculate men who do not want to be the sole provider of the household.
However, in this day and age feminism is used to describe women who disagree with an agenda, it is used as a tool to label someone as weak, and it is used a derogatory term. As a women, I am disgusted that we have allowed not only men, but other women to tear down the wall that our ancestors built brick by brick. They risked their lives, their families, and much more to have a say in our government policy and all we have done is drag a word that they wore as a badge of honor through the mud. By “putting women in their place”, you are implying that women are beneath you. That they wouldn’t be able to handle what you do. Now don’t get me wrong, I would love to grow up and be a stay at home wife, but that does not make me weak. That makes me a stronger person and woman to be able to give up something I love to raise kids that understand the word feminism.
In my opinion, mothers have the hardest job among us. They are tasked with molding young minds into extraordinary human beings, teaching their children right from wrong, and loving them even when they make the wrong decision. So when you talk badly about feminism, you are essentially saying that what women have done throughout centuries is not extraordinary in their own right. That your mothers and sisters are not some of the bravest people you know, and that they do not deserve to be put on the same playing field you are on.
Now, I do not believe I would call myself a feminist by todays standards, however, I do believe in women being able to make their own decisions. To be able to say “I am proud to be a CEO of a fortune five hundred company”, or “I am proud that I am able to be a house wife”. Even, “I am proud to have the opportunity to do both”. We should not have to feel guilty for the decisions we make, because the truth is, anyone can be a feminist. Anyone can stand up for equal opportunities for both women AND men. Anyone can choose to be civil towards women, and anyone can choose to not use feminism as an excuse. Because lets be honest, we know women are not weak, but we are only as strong as we believe to be. As we choose to be.